Adventure’s Role in Self-Discovery with Former Marine, Tom Foxley

On A Remote Canadian Glacier…

My frozen hands scrambled to unclog my ski bindings from packed snow.

Not now…

My harness and rope were irritating obstacles that just added to the hassle.

If only I could take this crap off…”

The three of us stood on a glacier we were desperate to get off. Surrounded by hidden crevasses that threatened to suck us into their depths.

The unsettling crack and rumble of an avalanche a few hundred metres to our left had confirmed that we needed to get back into safer terrain immediately.

My numb digits couldn’t get the icy-snow out of my bindings, and panic began to settle in.

A distant voice whispered to me. The memory of an admittedly terrifying sergeant who helped put me through Royal Marines training…

Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” 

Why was this bloke’s face and voice in my mind at such an urgent time?

“Oh, it’s a lesson!”

I took a breath, detached from the situation, and slowed down.

The solution came to me, I had to melt the snow with the only warm liquid I had: my own pee.

Now I think back to that remote glacier in British Columbia, Canada, and laugh. My two friends’ faces as I began to urinate on my own skis in a hostile alpine environment was a picture.

But this isn’t a blog about tactical tips, it’s a blog about who you fundamentally are, and more interestingly, who you have the potential to become.

The Character Forge of Adventure

Adventure has given me far more than fun stories, epic photos and piss-soaked skis, it has given me an avenue to develop who I fundamentally am. From pub walks in a soggy English field, to an upcoming 2 week ski mountaineering trip in the Karakoram Mountains…

…And from the constant agony of Commando training, to teaching friends how to tie into a climbing harness with a sea sunset in the background, adventures have provided me with a forge for my character.

Mishaps are the furnace of resilience. Challenge & difficulties, the anvils of a cool, calm mind. Deep connection with nature and friends, the hearth of love.n And peak experiences a glimpse of something truly transcendent. Without adventure, I would be a fraction of the man I am today – it has shown me who I am meant to be, and I’m guessing it has done the same for you too.

But it’s my opinion that we can use adventure as a more intentional tool, rather than relying on the perfect circumstance.

The Hero’s Journey

My day job is coaching people to become who they’re meant to be. When I do this, I continually refer them to Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey.

The Hero’s Journey is a narrative framework that outlines a common pattern of stages many heroes undergo in myths and stories worldwide.

It begins with the hero receiving a call to adventure, leading them to leave their ordinary world. They cross into an unfamiliar, challenging realm, where they face trials, meet allies and enemies, and undergo a central crisis.

This crisis leads to a victory or achievement, after which the hero returns to the ordinary world, transformed by the experience and often with a boon or insight to benefit their community.

The Hero’s Journey is not only a framework for every great movie you’ve seen, it’s a structure for personal development that is pre-built into every single one of us.

One of the key concepts is that once we accept the call to adventure, we are littered with progressively more challenging trials to pass.

The obstacle in front of us requires every sinew of our character and skill set to overcome.

It feels beyond our capacity.

Yet succeed in that challenge we do, which only brings us to an even greater challenge which looms in front of us; intimidating and dangerous.

But when we meet this challenge, we are not the same person we were when we planned our first hike.

That person would have been massively insufficient for a challenge of this scale. You have grown.

Yes, your skill set has developed, but so have you. You have activated parts of you that have been dormant until challenge brought them out to play.

Adventure is your most intuitive mentor, the perfect balance of maternal and paternal encouragement.

I intentionally use adventure to help myself and my clients grow.

First, we can learn to see the adventure in all of life. From becoming a parent, to aiming at career progression, it’s all an adventure.

Then we can consistently put ourselves into the environments that will extract the best from ourselves.

By answering the call to adventure, you are answering the call to your better self.

So, what’s next on your adventure list?

A Bit About Tom

Tom Foxley helps freedom seekers become who they’re meant to be. He was formerly a Royal Marines Commando and is a skier, mountaineer, climber, and business owner. He coaches people through a combination of mindset coaching, biohacking, and actionable philosophy. For more info, connect with him at the following:

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The London Adventurer II

For the second of our three part series, we explore in and around London on two wheels. We will take you from the instagram worthy sites along the Thames to out-the-saddle climbs on Box Hill. Whether you are the most recreational cyclist looking for a fun Saturday afternoon or whether you are desperate for a new training route, we have you covered. As always, we would love to hear from you about your favourite routes in London.

1. London to Brighton

Distance: 87 km (one way) 174 km (return trip)

Difficulty: Hard (one way) and very hard (return trip)

Start Point: Richmond Park

London to Brighton is now one of the most popular cycling routes in the area. The most famous event is the annual ‘London to Brighton’ charity race, where all proceeds go to charities of your choice. It has been running from 1976 and has grown from a group of 34 people to over 14,000 now! There is something quite novel about cycling south from the Capital City, and not stopping until the sea won’t let you go any further.

There are lots of places to start but we like to start from Richmond Park, then follow the the route (GPX file here) through the Surrey Hills and the South Downs. When you reach the mighty Ditchling Beacon, you only have one big push before it is downhill all the way to the finish!

As you get to the beach you will be rewarded with a host of fantastic eateries and bars. There are plenty of deck chairs on the beach so grab yourself a drink and celebrate (be aware of the seagulls!). When ready to leave, its a 5 minute cycle to the main station and then a £12 ticket back into London.

2. Richmond Park

Distance: 12 km per lap

Difficulty: Medium

Start Point: Roehampton Gate

Richmond Park is the largest green area within Greater London. It is the preferred training location for many cyclists in the city. It has hills, beautiful landscapes, plenty of wildlife, a couple of great coffee-stops and is easy to get to. If you arrive between 7am and 9 am (particularly at the weekend) so will often see the professionals out training too as they fly by you!

Richmond is not only a great place for road cycling but has a stunning gravel route and is also fun to explore on mountain bike. There is a cycle rental shop close to Roehampton Gate and their proceeds go to maintaining the park and the cycle infrastructure. If you have a family it is also a great place to have a walk and get a little bit of fresh air – something that is becoming harder to find in many parts of London!

3. Hampton Court Palace to Windsor Castle

Distance: 60 km

Difficulty: Medium

Start Point: Hampton Court Palace (near Kingston)

You can either start cycling from home and make your way to Hampton Court or you can take the train and start there. The Overground services are incredibly easy to use with bikes (unlike many train operators now…). This route starts and finishes with a marvel of British Architecture and History. Hampton Court was the home of Henry 8th and the deer park was his personal hunting ground! Windsor Castle was the home of Her Majesty The Queen, now King Charles. If you start early and get to Windsor before 11am you can also enjoy the Changing Of The Guard Ceremony which happens every day!

As you head off, use the National Cycle Route 4 which will take you along the river all the way out to Windsor Great Park. Feel free to spend some time exploring (stay on the roads or you will get shouted at!), a bite to eat and glorious views of the Castle! As you leave Windsor you will say wave goodbye to Route 4 and cycle to the Queen Mother Reservoir. From here you will cycle past London Heathrow Airport and then along the road directly back to the front of Hampton Court Palace. Well done!

Get the GPX route here.

4. Battersea Park To Greenwich

Distance: 16 km

Difficulty: Easy

Start Point: Battersea Park

We are back on National Cycle Route 4 but this time we are heading west! This is a real leisurely ride that can be done on anything from a Santander (Borris) bike through to your time trial racing machine (if you really want). Make sure to get some great video as you cycle by the London Eye, the Globe Theatre and the Tate Modern – all of which you can stop off at if you are in tourist mode. This route is generally low-traffic meaning that you can really relax and enjoy it. If you’re feeling peckish make sure to hit the famous Borough Market for some classy street food coming from all over the world. Once fuelled and on the road, it’s a gentle cycle all the way to the Royal Observatory at Greenwich.

5. Thames Valley Cycle Path

Distance: 160km

Difficulty: Hard

Start Point: Putney Bridge

This one is in here for the real adventurers out there! This is either a long day in the saddle or a lovely thing to do over a weekend. Once again we are taking use of the traffic free zones of the National Cycle Network and following it from Putney Bridge, through Thames Valley and out to Oxford. More than half of the route is completely traffic free!

Most of the route is pretty flat until you get to the Chiltern Hills (close to Oxford). Here you can choose to spend some time exploring the area and add some elevation, or you can take the direct route along the path and take yourself to Oxford for some well earned grub!

Get the GPX file here.

Thanks for reading!

We always love to hear from you so if there is anything that you want us to write about, or want help planning your next adventure, we are here to help! Get in touch Here.

See you out there!

Bruce

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